My "car guy evolution" has been an interesting one over the years and it probably parallels a lot of other "car guys" out there. Most of us never make it to a "track" or do so once in a very great while and we come nowhere near close to pushing the limits of our cars on the street. Indeed, a professional driver on a track would likely beat most of us in a cheap rental while we were in a Ferrari!
As for me, I've owned some American muscle, done a decent bit of wrenching (more than I wish), and headed down the BMW path with a couple of M cars, etc. My evolution ended up making me appreciate "sports sedans" as cars that gave me decent driving feel, handling and power, but didn't beat me up and were practical so I could stop saying "No, let's take your car, its more comfortable/practical" to my wife all the time. Indeed, there is a reason you see tons of low mileage 2 seat sports cars out there...they spend their lives being passed over for more practical rides day in and day out.
Anyway, I've found that driving enjoyment has a lot to do with how much you enjoy driving your car
at the limits you are comfortable with and on the drives you make every day. If your daily drive consists of roads in a crappy condition, you will likely hate a very stiff riding but "awesome handling" car. Indeed, I think BMW has gotten the suspension tuning wrong on a LOT of cars over the last decade or so. The early run flat tire cars were bemoaned by most owners (there is still no love affair with them). The current BMW i3 is another example. That car is very fun to drive and super tossable...however, at low speeds the ride is way to choppy on that short wheelbase and the freeway handling is darty (whereas most BMWs are rock solid on the freeway).
Is the Bolt (which I have yet to test drive - sorry, I'm in Texas...we have to wait) an M3 fighter? Hardly, but the average M3 spends its life relegated to commuting (I know my M5 did) and gets to have fun on that "one leg" of the commute every day. It is entirely conceivable that a "lesser" car could simply be more fun for an enthusiast on more stretches of roads he/she drives every day and, as an enthusiast, that's really what it is all about...right?
I just remembered how there was a guy on the Chevy Volt forum a few years back who had Ferraris, Lambos and the Volt. It was interesting to hear him bemoan life with a Lambo or Ferrari relative to his Volt. Basically, the former were tools for a very specific job and 99% of driving wasn't it...a stat reversed for his Volt.
Or...I could just be old.